Your Commitment To Berating Yourself Is Killing Your Productivity

Your mind is a very powerful tool. But sometimes, your mind is lying to you. And those lies, while trying to help you, are sucking your energy and time down the drain.

A lot of the people I speak with are objectively highly successful people, who have achieved everything short of literally moving mountains. And yet, when I meet many of them, they are gripped with a fatigue that is seemingly getting in the way of what they want.

“I don’t get why I can’t just do the thing,” they proclaim.

…typically followed by…

“I just need to get my act together and do it.”

I then watch as they unsuccessfully try to direct the remaining fumes of willpower (depleted through exhaustion) to the ‘problem’.

Inevitably, when that doesn’t work, it all comes tumbling out:

“I’m so lazy. What’s wrong with me? I can’t believe I’m such a failure. I just need to be stronger and suck it up. I’m so weak. I’m such a loser”

And there it is. The buried inner monologue carrying a stream of self-beratement. a.k.a the mind trying to find a problem to fix. SO it decides the problem is YOU.

If you resonate with the previous words, I’ve got a message for you:

That constant hum of internally beating yourself up? Your mind harshly telling you that you are a f**k up as a form of motivation?

THAT is what is hemorrhaging your energy, your focus, your motivation, and your confidence.

The mind is a powerful tool. When aimed against ourselves it is also a powerful weapon.

And if you notice that you have aimed the weapon at yourself, please please please do not continue the attack.

It’s exhausting. And harmful. Sure it will give you a ton of control, which your mind will love. But it will inevitably rob you of what you are actually seeking.

The only thing to do is pause, breathe, and start to reverse the damage the inner battle has caused.

Instead of telling yourself you are lazy and useless and always fail. Instead of telling yourself that you are the unfixable problem…

Try telling yourself you are doing your best and have experienced success before so it’s only a matter of time until you get there again. Try congratulating yourself for showing up and trying.

I can not tell you how many people I’ve seen jump into productive action after practicing 3 minutes of self-kindness.

Your mind can tell you that you are the curse in your own life. That you are the problem that needs to be fixed.

Or your mind can tell you that you are a good person with all of the internal resources necessary to create what you want next.

Whatever you think, you will create. So choose wisely.